A common African Tourist question is, “what are the big five”? And the answer would always include lion, buffalo, leopard, elephant, and rhino. But, if I were to ask you “what are the big three” spiritual attributes to building a strong family, what would you say?

According to Ephesians 4:32 they are “Be KIND to one another, TENDERHEARTED, FORGIVING one another, as God in Christ forgave you” (ESV).

Kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate towards another. When I am kind towards another, I use my time, talent, and treasure to better the lives of others. Through my genuine act of love, compassion, and generosity, I improve the world.

When I am tenderhearted, I am known to have a sentimental or sympathetic nature. I find I am easily moved by another’s joy or distress and therefore “weep with those who weep and rejoice with those who rejoice” (Rom.12:15). In Genesis 43:30 we see Joseph hurrying out because of his tender feelings toward his brothers and he sought a private place to weep.

And when I am forgiving, I stop feeling anger or resentful toward someone for an offense, flaw, or mistake.

Dear church, how are you doing with the “big three” will determine whether you are building up or tearing down THE BODY OF CHRIST.