Crazy to think that our society needs to be taught how to be nice. It seems like our world has turned on a dime and become mean-spirited. But is this really a new thing? Many years ago, a young shepherd boy was just trying to live out a good life in service to his king. But, unfortunately for David, the King took offense to his incredible and sacrificial service. 1 Samuel 18 puts it this way:
7 And the women sang to one another as they celebrated, “Saul has struck down his thousands, and David his ten thousands.”
From that moment, King Saul became mean-spirited. However, prior he must have lost his humility and become narcissistic. Some of his current character traits would have been: Grandiose sense of self-importance; a fantasy world that supported a delusion of grandeur; a need for constant praise and admiration; a sense of entitlement; exploiting others without guilt or shame; and frequently demeaning, intimidating, bulling, or belittling others.
So, what is the cure. Saul allowed envy to take over his life. It became all about him and not the people he was supposed to be leading. The cure is to become a servant and realize that if other humans are doing well everyone wins.
Practically, start being nice to others. By smiling we can make someone’s day a little sweeter; think of ways to promote peace (stop accepting or looking for accusations against others); simply in silence listen; send a card, text, or flowers; be liberal with genuine compliments.
Friend, be nice not because others are nice, but because you are.
